Beloved Manasa,
You can treat me as your friend, brother, or anything or nothing it never matters.....
I dont know about you, but i can sure about my beloved Aditya. Hope he is your best friend. Every day we walk together for some time , we used to talk about our all matters , but from many days he is not shining as he is shining before, some hidden feeling or pain he is caring with him.
But today suddenly he opened his heart, he is talking all matters he is asking for the solution , but after hearing all things i just feel that it doesn't have any solution, because its not at all problem so how can we able to put a solution for it.
In my sense friendship is a nonsense word or world. For using the person and taking the help, to get the treat, and to care whenever we need, and stay away whenever we are not required. Its all bogus, we seen many of them they are coming as a friend and they well go without telling any reason. Friendship can be create and destroy whenever its not required. I am your friend it simply says i am not your friend also.
Once true being or love happens its more than friendship. Because love is permanent relationship. once love happens means it cant be destroyed. Its just being lovely. Carrying lovely.
You are telling that you dont want to loose Adi's friendship, is it means that you want to be with him always? do you want to take care of him and be with him always? Do you want to be with him. See Manasa, we are not leaving for 1000 years, we are here in this beautiful earth for a short time, we came here to enjoy and love and celebrate together. So we have to be with whom we want and whom we like.
Master say's on love:
" Love is crazy, so you cannot make it sane. Love is insane — and that is the whole beauty of it! It is not rational, it is not even reasonable. And this happens to everybody: sometimes you feel like being in it and sometimes you don’t feel like being in it. Sometimes you want to go away from the love object and sometimes you want to dissolve into the love object. Both are right — you are not to choose between these two. They are both together, two aspects of the same phenomenon.
You have to understand; it is not a question of choice, just a question of understanding. It is like day and night together. You cannot always be in love — that is difficult. Impossible! Sometimes one needs rest from love too.
So both these things will come up and down. Sometimes you are deeply in love and you don’t bother about freedom. Sometimes you need your space and you think about freedom, and you don’t bother about love. But both are true; one has to come to an understanding.
So if you are living with [him], create understanding, talk to each other, and understand that sometimes he needs his space. And this is a problem: it may not happen at the same time to both of you.
Sometimes you want to be with him and he wants to be alone — nothing can be done about it. Then you have to understand and leave him alone. Sometimes you want to be alone but he wants to come to you — then tell him that you are helpless!
So just create more and more understanding. That’s what lovers miss: love they have enough, but understanding none, not at all. That’s why on the rocks of misunderstanding their love dies. Love cannot live alone without understanding. Alone, love is very foolish; with understanding, love can live a long life, a great life — of many joys shared, of many beautiful moments shared, of great poetic experiences. But that happens only through understanding.
Love can give you a small honeymoon, but that’s all. Only understanding can give you deep intimacy. And each honeymoon is followed by depression, anger, frustration. Unless you grow in understanding, no honeymoon is going to be of any help; it is just like a drug.
So try to create more understanding with [him] too. And even some day if you separate, the understanding will be with you, will be with him, and that will be a gift of your love to each other. Lovers can separate, but the understanding that has been gained through the other, in the company of the other, will always be with you. That will remain as a gift — there can be no other gift. If you love a person, the only valuable gift that you can give to him is some quantity of understanding. "
So whatsoever is available, don’t miss it! By missing it again and again, you will miss the deeper points, the deeper possibilities. And each relationship is a step towards a higher relationship. That higher relationship may happen with the same person, it may happen with another person, that is not the point. You follow me? It may happen with the same person, it may happen with another person, but this relationship will help you to go into that.
Each love helps… small loves, big loves, all help… and life consists of a thousand things. The day you really fall deeply in love all your loves of the past will be involved in it – even small things: you were passing along a road and you saw a small boy standing there. He smiled, you smiled, and then you went on and nothing else happened. That too will be there when you fall in a deep love – that smile will be there, part of it, because it is part of you.
So if you love him hold him tightly , there is nothing wrong in that, he is good or bad never matters if you are good and lovely automatically he will become good and love. Sharing and carrying is greatest thing in life. Dont miss the chance to live the person whom you love and care.
We all with you, no need to bother about anything, nothing will happen. Every thing will be in happy ending.
If you dont want to miss him, his care and his love tell him that I am in love, love with the most beautiful and lovely heart.
Love him such a way that he should not go for finding the love in the universe.
If you want a friendship , again its a thought, its not a reality, because when you get married you can't be a friend of Anyone, and you will loose the freedom of your own. First you have to become a wife of your man and same for the guy he must have to live with his wife, do totally whatever you thought and feel. Marriage not mean that forcibly live together, it simply mean that understanding of two beautiful hearts, and freedom full living, living together , thinking together , celebrating the life together. Its just a sharing of the joyful life with our beloved one.
With lots of love,care and joy
Guru
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